We drove four hours for Thanksgiving only to be turned away while my sister’s family was still eating inside. I said nothing, loaded up my kids, and made one quiet decision.

She directed me to a specialty artisanal butcher near her home. I phoned in an order for a bird so colossal it practically required its own agricultural transport permit. It cost an absurd amount. Four days later, an urgent text pinged on my phone: Mom needed $180 for the remaining sides and roasting pans. I sent it via instant transfer. The following week brought a request for another $65 because she had forgotten the candied yams and pecans.

“For sixty-five dollars,” I teased gently over text, “those pecans better include mineral rights to the orchard.”

Her reply was swift, pious, and cold: You know how much this tradition means to your father’s spirits.

I sent the money without another word. I was already sending them $1,100 on the first of every month anyway.

That monthly subsidy had started four years earlier, right after Dad’s coronary bypass. Mom had called in tears, detailing an alarming “temporary income bridge” caused by his unexpected retirement, escalating property taxes, and specialized physical therapy. It began at $600. Then it climbed to $800 to offset dental work. Then it solidified into an even $1,100. Over forty-eight months, the word temporary had quietly dissolved into thin air.

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