And when you spoke, he remembered.
Three weeks after the conference, he called my firm and asked to speak with the associate he had met who specialized in forensic work.
He claimed he had another question.
He didn’t.
He wanted to ask me to dinner.
I said yes.
Within six months, we were serious.
Within a year, we lived together.
Three years after meeting, we got married.
And despite everything that happened later, I want to make something clear.
For most of our marriage, Felix was a good husband.
He helped.
He listened.
He participated in our life instead of simply occupying it.
He loved cooking, which was convenient because I didn’t.
He handled the cars because I hated dealing with maintenance.
And he could usually tell when something was bothering me before I said anything.
But whenever Lucia applied pressure, Felix lost his balance.
And Lucia had been applying pressure from almost the beginning.
Never dramatically.
She wasn’t the type to walk into a room and openly announce that she hated her daughter-in-law.
Lucia preferred something quieter.
Questions disguised as concern.
Observations that sounded innocent until you thought about them later.
Compliments with little blades hidden inside them.
The first time she asked what I did for work, I explained that I worked in accounting.
She tilted her head.
“So you’re not really an accountant yet?”
“I’m an associate,” I replied. “I’m working toward my CPA.”
“Felix was already a manager at your age.”
“Yes.”
“You probably make quite a bit less than him, then.”
“For now.”
She smiled.
It wasn’t a warm smile.
It was the expression of someone who had just obtained the information she wanted.
At the time, Lucia wasn’t entirely wrong.
Felix did earn more than me.
He was older.
He had more years in the workforce.
And his career had progressed faster at that stage.
I was still building mine.
But Lucia looked at the temporary income gap and turned it into something permanent in her mind.
Rachel earns less.
Therefore, Rachel contributes less.
Eventually, that evolved into:
Rachel contributes nothing.
The interesting thing was that the income gap didn’t stay.
By our fourth year of marriage, I was earning slightly more than Felix.
By year six, I was earning considerably more.